Becoming a business owner will and I mean WILL take time away from your family. The most important thing to ease the so-called distance is to make them aware of what you're doing and the positive effect it can have on them. Telling your kids things like Mommy is a little busy because she's trying to make a great future for you or Mommy is busy now so she can spend more time with you later may help ease the pain of being distant at times. There were many of times myself as a mother in which I felt guilty, sad and almost gave up starting my business for the fear of alienating my child, however, as of yesterday all of the feelings changed as I realized my biggest supporter is my child!
My mother always told me the truth comes from the mouth of babes, although my daughter is 13 she's still my babe and I'll take the truth from her just fine! This epiphany of a moment came about as we prepared for her first day of school with the prim and proper check of getting her hair done at Hairtage Studios here in Charlotte, NC. As most women know a trip to the salon is a good couple of hours out of your day spent (wink, wink). Well in our 2nd hour I decided to run out and get my daughter some brunch. Upon my return one of the customers turned to me and said "Um, excuse me, I hear you design websites". My first instinct was who told her, I hardly know anyone here except my daughter and the owner and yes while we had conversations earlier regarding current events, celebrity gossip, relationships and all the things women talk about in a salon, there was never once a mention of my business. So, where is she getting this from??? Her response was your daughter told me! I was like huh, she then went on to say that my daughter told her how I created my own website, own a training company and how I'm co-founder of QC Hustle! I immediately looked over to my daughter who was brimming with pride! She had that look like yeah, Mom I'm shouting you out cause I know you can do it; I'm shouting you out cause I'm proud; I'm shouting you out cause I support you and have your back! Aside from my child telling me she loves me, which at 13 years old is hardly heard these days (womp, womp), this was the most endearing show of support and understanding that I ever experienced. Not only did it show me she got it and she knows what I'm doing, but it showed me I have someone in my corner who is extremely important, who believes in me and wants me to succeed just as much! What more can I ever ask for!
Her spirit has given me a newfound encouragement to succeed. It's true what I've been saying that I'm doing this for us, but now it's really TRUE! I love the fact that my daughter looks up to me and that she sees something in me that I feel but sometimes is unsure of. As we make the sacrifice of time with our children and loved ones just know it's not done in vain and they are watching. It's up to you to make good on what you're saying and you can only do so by trying and succeeding! Trust me from the mouth of babes you will reap the greatest reward!
Wishing You Prosperity,